The sex you want : a shameless journey to deep intimacy, honest pleasure, and a life you love
(2024)

Nonfiction

Book

Call Numbers:
NEW SELF-HELP

Availability

Locations Call Number Status
New & Popular Self-Help NEW SELF-HELP Available

Details

PUBLISHED
Naperville, Illinois : Sourcebooks, [2024]
DESCRIPTION

xxiii, 293 pages ; 21 cm

ISBN/ISSN
9781728275901, 1728275903 :, 1728275903, 9781728275901
LANGUAGE
English
NOTES

Part 1: free your mind -- Lesson 1: start visualizing -- Lesson 2: rewrite your story -- Lesson 3: give your trauma a home -- Lesson 4: rip off your armor -- Lesson 5: harness your 80-year-old badass -- Lesson 6: be too much -- Lesson 7: love your body with the lights on -- Lesson 8: turn yourself on -- Lesson 9: fall in love with yourself -- Part 2: play well with others -- Lesson 10: find your people -- Lesson 11: if it's not a fuck yes, it's a no -- Lesson 12: do it soon -- Lesson 13: stop playing the cool girl -- Lesson 14: examine your default setting -- Lesson 15: go with the flow -- Lesson 16: get creative -- Lesson 17: give it room to breathe -- Part 3: make sex fun again -- Lesson 18: get out of your head -- Lesson 19: talk about it -- Lesson 20: schedule it -- Lesson 21: make porn your friend -- Lesson 22: bring in the toys -- Lesson 23: use your imagination -- Lesson 24: be a good girl -- Lesson 25: make it a group thing -- Conclusion: your happy ending

"After spending years in a sexless marriage, Rena Martine sought out a therapist to "fix" her. Instead, the therapist empowered Rena to walk the path from shameful to shameless. Rena ended her vanilla marriage in favor of a kinky lifestyle, released the dictum of monogamy to embrace an open relationship structure, and dropped the perfectionist "cool girl" act to show up as her actual self on dates. But learning how to do all of that was a full-time job. Featuring frank and relatable anecdotes from Rena's own journey, as well as the stories of her clients, Shameless guides readers through the murky waters of understanding and acting on their own desires, including Internal narratives and unconscious biases that may be trapping you in patterns of shame. The book gives you actionable and tested advice on: Sexual curiosity and exploration with or without a partner Healthy relationship structures, monogamous or not Sexual experimentation outside the vanilla box Written with empathy and candor, this book gives women a broad understanding of intimacy's many forms and invites them to be curious, confident, and courageous about what they really want"--