Please note: This is a companion version & not the original book. Book Preview: #1 Forgiveness is essentially something we do for ourselves, regardless of whether the perpetrator shows any contrition. It is counterproductive to tell someone that you are forgiving them, as they may not even be aware that they have upset you. #2 Forgiveness is extremely difficult, and very few people ever manage to achieve it. Self-forgiveness is even more difficult, as we must balance two opposite and contradictory energies: the desire to forgive and the need to condemn. #3 We are not a single self, but a community of selves that constantly argue with each other. The internal conflict going on inside our heads is likely to be overwhelming. #4 The three characters that make up the committee that runs our lives are the resident judge, the critical parent, and the inner lover. They all have their own agendas, but they can help us understand who we are and what we need

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