Offers a formula for building a growing and positive relationship and shows how to avoid common relationship pitfalls

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Mostly, Be Pals

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Learn to Laugh at Yourself

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Let It Go Already

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Turn Up the Heat

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Consider That the Grass Probably Isn't Greener

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Throw Away Your Scorecard

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Be Kind First (Kris)

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Don't Use Your Partner as a Punching Bag!

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Ask the Question, "Whose Quirk Is This, Anyway?" (Kris)

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Talk to Him His Way

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Avoid the Words, "I Love You, BUT"

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Fill Your Life with Opportunities to Express Love

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Look for the Gifts

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Mark Your Calendar (Kris)

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Share an Insight

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Stay Away from Ultimatums

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Allow Time for Transitions

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Don't Fight Unless the Mood Is Right

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Know Your Own Value

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Put a Positive Spin on It

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Remember That Your Partner Can't Read Your Mind

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Set a Good Example (Kris)

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Don't Fight over Stupid Things

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Become a World-Class Listener

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Experience a Sudden Shift

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Avoid the "I've Had a Really Hard Day" Habit

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Let Him Buy His Lunch

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Surprise Her with Compliments

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Stop Wishing She (or He) Were Different

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Don't Put Your Partner On the Spot

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Think Before You Speak

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Discover What Part You Are Playing

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Finish the Job

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Think Gentle Thoughts

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Stay Compassionate

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Jump-Start Your Relationship

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Don't Allow Passing Thoughts to Turn into Issues

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Become a Low-Maintenance Partner

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Do It Your Way

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Walke Up and Think about Three Things You Love about Her

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Choose Peace over Irritation

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Don't Sweat the Occasional Criticism

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Stay Playful

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Stop Rehearsing Unhappiness

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Don't Be the Hero of Every Story

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Make the Fresh-Start Commitment

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Avoid Correcting Each Other

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Sit in Silence

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Take Responsibility for Your Own Happiness

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Master the ARt of the Heart-to-Heart

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Don't Confuse Your Own Frustration with a Problem in the Relationship

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Stop Being So Defensive

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Be Consistently Grateful

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Don't Fall into the "I've Got Time for Everyone but You" Trap

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Organize a Charitable Project Together

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Ask Yourself the Question, "In the Scheme of Things, Is This Really That Big a Deal?"

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Don't Continue Doing the Same Things and Expect a Different Result

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Respond with Love

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Look in the Mirror

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Allow Your Partner to Be Human

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Make Peace with Change

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Don't Overanalyze the Flaws

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Choose to Be Supportive (Kris)

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Jump Ahead and Look Back

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Remember the Equation: A Happy Person Equals a Happy Partner

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Ask for "Dream Updates"

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Never Underestimate the Power of Love

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Don't Let Your Children Come between You

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Learn to Deflect Occasional Uncalled-for Comments

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Don't Come Home Frazzled

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Ask Your Partner the Question, "What's the Most Difficult Part of Being in a Relationship with Me?"

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Don't Question Her (or His) Motives

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Graciously Receive Compliments

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Let Go of Your Top Three Pet Peeves

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Avoid Absolute Statements (of a Negative Nature)

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Predict the Predictable

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Stop Treating Everything Like an Emergency

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Use Letters as a Communication Tool

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Don't Make Your Partner Walk on Eggshells

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Make a Plan to Become More Loving

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Gracefully Accept Apologies

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Reflect, for a Moment, on All You Don't Do

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Practice Regular Stress Prevention

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Don't Speak for Your Spouse (or Boyfriend, Girlfriend, Fiancee, or Anyone Else)!

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Conspire to Inspire

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Cast Away Jealousy (Kris)

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Allow Your Partner a Few Eccentricities

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Stop Being So Demanding

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When in Doubt, Pause

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Practice Unconditional Love

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Go Ahead and Do It

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Say the Words, "I'm Sorry"

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Stay Away from Comparisons

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Learn from a Teen

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Step Aside from Stubbornness

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Raise Your Standard of Living

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Allow Your Partner the Space to "Lose it" Every Once in a While

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Balance the Act (Kris)

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Remember the Magic

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Treasure Each Other

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