Stepparenting : 50 one-minute dos and don'ts for stepdads and stepmoms
(2016)
Nonfiction
Book
Call Numbers:
306.8747/HICKS,R
Availability
Details
PUBLISHED
San Diego, California : WordSlinger Press, 2016
©2016
©2016
DESCRIPTION
90 pages : illustrations ; 23 cm
ISBN/ISSN
9780979443039, 9780979443039, 0979443032
LANGUAGE
English
NOTES
Step parenting involves special parenting challenges and skills. This book eliminates the fluff and gives you just the nuggets in 50 one-and-two page "chapters," each with an accompanying photograph, concisely addressing a particular issue. This is practical advice that both the stepparent and existing parent can instantly put to use
CONTENTS
Do show love and respect for your spouse --
Don't use chores as punishment --
Don't yell --
Do choose activities that bond you as a family --
Don't hide every parental disagreement --
Don't buy love --
Do give time --
Don't point out your own attributes --
Don't try to be the cool parent --
Do be fair and consistent in discipline --
Don't spank --
Don't wait until marriage to start taking on a role --
Do go slow --
Do let your spouse and his or her child have their own private time --
Do create new family activities and traditions --
Do get ready for "you are not my dad/mom" --
Don't expect an immediate blended family --
Don't be jealous when the child talks about the out-of-house parent --
Don't let your stepchild's rudeness go unnoticed --
Do find time to focus on your spouse --
Do accept your stepchild for who they are --
Do take care of yourself --
Do find "little" activities to do together --
Do build a family website or Facebook page --
Don't get sucked into taking sides between children --
Do consider stepparent adoption --
Do give easy opportunities to talk --
Do be flexible in what your stepchild calls you --
Do recognize adult stepchildren have emotions too --
Do consider attending worship together --
Don't get upset on mother's/father's day --
Don't push gender-specific roles on your spouse --
Do be prepared to pay for the failures of the out-of-house parent --
Do help your stepchild feel good about himself/herself --
Don't feel you need to solve every problem --
Don't be afraid to refer to your stepchild as "my son" or "my daughter" --
Do be prepared for the sex with your spouse to change --
Don't brush aside your child's grief --
Do be prepared for a child's rejection --
Do be prepared for your stepchild to badmouth you to the out-of-house parent --
Don't defend yourself against every negative comment from the out-of-house parent --
Do help your stepchild buy gifts for the out-of-house parent --
Do understand the reason for a child's anger and rudeness --
Don't "pass the buck" to the stepparent --
Don't let your guilt over a failed marriage make you spoil your child --
Don't control your kids. Guide them --
Do recognize your stepchild may show love in different ways --
Do use the fewest words possible --
Don't criticize a child for bad behavior, criticize the behavior itself --
Do respect a stepchild's need for privacy and decorum --
Don't feel every holiday must be spent together --
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