"Can you love more than one person?" A lot of conversations about nonmonogamy start this way. When we discuss "opening" relationships, contemplate whether we want to be exclusive with our partners, or introduce multiple partners to friends and family, we are asking the people in our lives, and ourselves, to contend with this question. The answer is obvious, and misleading. The love one feels in their heart and the love one expresses through daily acts of care and affection are both "love" in the true sense, but they have different requirements, present different options and produce different outcomes. More Than Two can't promise outcomes, but it is a guide to the paths-from anchor or nesting partnerships to relationship anarchy-possible within nonmonogamy. This long-awaited second edition bridges emerging theories on attachment and relationship diversity with authors Eve Rickert and Andrea Zanin's insight and experience. The arcs of nonmonogamous partnerships bend towards complexity, introspection and compromise-or at least they can, if we work at it. A modern topology of nonmonogamy's many possibilities-and consequences. This is a new, fully revised and updated edition of More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory (9780991399703), first published in 2014, which sold over 175,000 copies. It includes a new co-author, Andrea Zanin. The previous male co-author has relinquished his copyright and moral rights; his name is not present in the book and he has no association with it. The content has been significantly rewritten from the original. More Than Two is a registered trademark of Thornapple Press/Talk Science to Me Communications Inc. in Canada and the United States. For more information on the new edition and the various works associated with the name More Than Two, visit Eve Rickert's More Than Two FAQ page. abortion, 379-80 Abramson, Kate, 152, 421 abundance models of relationships, 106 abuse whether abuse or not, 57-60, 67 blame and self-blame, 82-83 boundary-testing and, 177-78 coercive control, 63-64, 66-67 in context of nonmonogamy, 71-75 defining, 63-66 dynamics leading to, 82-84 ending relationship and, 79-80 experiencing, 80-82 kink and BDSM and, 76-79 love and, 61-63 missing stairs and other bad actors, 67-69, 76 perpetrating, 84-85 protective factors of nonmonogamy, 75-76 resources, 70-71, 421-22 toxic behaviour, 64-66, 66-67 use and misuse of advice and, 85-86 warning signs, 69-70, 82 access intimacy, 25 active listening, 134, 138-39, 141, 348 agency, 47, 49-50, 103, 319, 372 agreements broken, 267-69 characteristics of effective, 254-56 COVID-19 and, 189 creeping concessions, 265-66 debate over, 165-66 defined and overview, 185-87 disruptors and, 261-64 effective, 254-56 flexibility and, 259-60 negotiation and renegotiation of, 186, 245, 256, 257, 270, 296 permission model of relationships and, 260-61 privacy and disclosure and, 266-67 re-evaluating, 264 as rules, 191 rules vs., 188-89, 190 written, 257-60 AIDS. See HIV All About Love (hooks), 421 All My Relations (podcast), xvi allonormativity, 354 allosexual people, 19, 314, 355, 356 alone, being, 108-9 amatonormativity defined, 1-2, 400 myths and scripts of, 24, 102, 107, 172, 309 in society, 20, 35, 354 anchor partner, 400 anger, 90, 148, 157, 173 Antimononormative, 428 Antoniou, Laura, 428 anxiety, 56, 88, 157, 179, 386 Anxious Person's Guide to Nonmonogamy, The (Phoenix), 423 anxious-preoccupied (anxious) attachment style, 25, 244 aromantic people, 11, 19, 24, 355 asexuality and asexual people, 11, 25, 310, 355, 400 Ask Yourself (Stryker), 48, 62-63, 419 asymmetry, feature of restrictions, 204 attachment-based relationships/styles, 25-26, 28, 29 authority, feature of

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