Is sex important? -- Center pleasure -- Your emotional floorplan -- How to use your floorplan -- How we give and receive -- What we give and receive -- Living in bodies -- Relationship change -- The sex imperatives -- The gender mirage -- Heterosexual-type relationships -- The magic trick

"An illuminating exploration of how to maintain a happy sex life in a long-term relationship, from the New York Times bestselling author of Come as You Are and co-author of Burnout. In Come as You Are, Emily Nagoski, PhD, provided science-backed lessons that revolutionized the way we think about women's sexuality. Now, in Come Together, Nagoski takes on a fundamentally misunderstood subject: good sex. Nagoski breaks down the myths many of us have been taught about sex-for instance, the belief that sexual satisfaction and desire are highest at the beginning of a relationship and that they will inevitably decline the longer that relationship lasts. Nagoski assures us that's not true. So, what is true? Come Together isn't about how much we want sex, or how often we're having it; it's about whether we like the sex we're having. Nagoski breaks down the obstacles that impede us from enjoying sex-from stress and body image, to relationship difficulties and gendered beliefs about how sex "should" be-and presents the best ways to overcome them. You'll learn: That "spontaneous desire" is not the kind of desire to strive for if you want to have great sex for decades. Vocabulary for talking with partners about ways to get in "the mood" and how to not take it personally when "the mood" is nowhere to be found. How to understand your own and your partners' "emotional floorplan," so that you have a blueprint for how to get to a sexy state of mind. With her signature insight, humor, and empathy, Nagoski shows us what great sex can look like, how to create it in our own lives, and what to do when struggles arise"--