Originally published: New York : Dutton, ©2010

The husband store -- The dating trenches -- The romantic comedy that predicted my future -- How feminism fucked up my love life -- Speed dating disaster -- Older and wanting to be wiser -- $3500 for love -- The what versus the why -- Mondays with Evan : the percentages -- It's not him, it's you -- Don't be picky, be happy -- Mondays with Evan : the wrong assumptions -- The men who got away -- Pulling another Sheldon -- Mondays with Evan : the lowdown on alpha males -- What first dates really tell us -- Are women pickier than men? -- Mondays with Evan : wants versus needs -- The business of love -- Love at twenty-seventh sight -- Mondays with Evan : the chemistry to compatibility ratio -- Dump the list, not the guy -- The good enough marriage -- A visit with the rabbi -- Claire's story : getting over myself -- Alexandra's story : Mr. Right in front of me -- Hilary's story : finding what I needed -- My story : a dating public service announcement

The NPR commentator describes her realization that she was prioritizing the wrong qualities in her search for a life partner, in an unstinting account that draws on the positive and negative responses to her 2008 "Atlantic" article