The popular LGBTQ advice columnist and writer presents a memoir-in-essays chronicling his journey growing up as a queer, mixed-race kid in America's heartland to becoming the "Chicano Carrie Bradshaw" of his generation

The first time someone called Brammer "Papi" was on the gay hookup app Grindr. At first he took this as white-guy speak for "hey, handsome." What started as a racialized moniker given to him on the hookup app soon became the inspiration for his now wildly popular advice column. Here Brammer shares his story of growing up biracial and in the closet in America's heartland, while attempting to answer some of life's toughest questions. This book is for anyone-- gay, straight, and everything in between-- who has ever taken stock of their unique place in the world. -- adapted from jacket

How to answer a letter, part 1 -- How to lose a rabbit -- How to kiss your girlfriend -- How to be a real Mexican -- How to come out to your boyfriend in a Walmart parking lot -- How to fall in and out of love -- How to chat with your childhood bully over a gay dating app -- How to describe a dick -- How to dress yourself in silks and linens -- How to disagree with who you used to be -- How to decide who to be -- How to spend the night -- How to see a comet in a room full of strangers -- How to answer a letter, part 2