Rules for you -- keep it under your hat -- You'll get older but not necessarily wiser -- Accept what is done is done -- Accept yourself -- Know what counts and what doesn't -- Dedicate your life to something -- Be flexible in your thinking -- Take an interest in the outside world -- Be on the side of the angels, not the beasts -- Only dead fish swim with the stream -- Be the last to raise your voice -- Be your own adviser -- No fear, no surprise, no hesitation, no doubt -- I wish I'd done that--and I will -- Count to ten--or recite "baa baa black sheep" -- Change what you can change, let go of the rest -- Aim to be the very best at everything you do--not second best -- Don't be afraid to dream -- Don't dwell on the past -- Don't live in the future -- Get on with life--it's whooshing past -- Dress like today is important -- Have a belief system -- Leave a little space for yourself each day -- Have a plan -- Have a sense of humour -- Choose how you make your bed -- Life can be a bit like advertising -- Get used to stepping outside your comfort zone -- Learn to ask questions -- Have dignity -- It's okay to feel big emotions -- Keep the faith -- You'll never understand everything -- Know where true happiness comes from -- Know when to let go--when to walk away -- Look after yourself -- Maintain good manners in all things -- Prune your stuff frequently -- Remember to touch base -- Draw the lines around yourself -- Shop for quality, not price -- It's okay to worry, or to know how not to -- Stay young -- Throwing money at a problem doesn't always work -- Think for yourself -- You are not in charge -- Have something in your life that takes you out of yourself -- Only the good feel guilty -- If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all

Partnership rules -- Accept the differences; embrace what you have in common -- Allow your partner the space to be themselves -- Be nice -- You want to do what? -- Be the first to say sorry -- Go that extra step in trying to please them -- Always have someone--or something--that is pleased to see you -- Know when to listen and when to act -- Have a passion for your life together -- Make sure your love making is making love -- Keep talking -- Respect privacy -- Check you both have the same shared goals -- Treat your partner better than your best friend -- Contentment is a high aim -- You don't both have to have the same rules -- Family and friends rules -- If you are going to be a friend, be a good friend -- Never be too busy for loved ones -- Let your kids mess up for themselves--they don't need any help from you -- Have a little respect and forgiveness for your parents -- Give your kids a break -- Never lend money unless you are prepared to write it off -- There are no bad children -- Be up around people you love -- Give your kids responsibilities -- Your children need to rebel to leave home -- Your kids will have friends you don't like -- Your role as a child -- Your role as a parent -- Social rules -- We're all closer than you think -- It doesn't hurt to forgive -- It doesn't hurt to be helpful -- Take pride in what we do collectively -- What's in it for them? -- Hang out with positive people -- Be generous with your time and information -- Get involved -- Keep the moral high ground -- Have a plan for your career -- Learn to see your community as part of a bigger picture -- Look at the long-term ramifications of what you do for a living -- Be good at your job -- World rules -- Be aware of the damage you are doing -- Be for the glory, not the degradation -- Be part of the solution, not the problem -- Check what history would say about you -- Keep your eyes open at all times -- Not everything can be green -- Put something back -- Find a new rule every day--or occasionally at least