Introduction : people in grocery stores -- 1. Deciding to adopt -- 2. Adoption and loss -- 3. The adoption process : fingerprints, documennts, and The Wait -- 4. Digging deeper : beyond the paperwork -- 5. Welcoming the whole child : personal histories -- 6. The child's right to privacy -- 7. Talking about adoption -- 8. People will ask you questions : representing the child and adoption -- 9. Both an adoptive family and just another family -- Conclusion : you're in on it, too -- Conversation starters : questions to prompt discussion -- Additional adoption resources for friends and relatives