Published: Philadelphia : Lifelong Books, 2010 Edition: 1st Da Capo Press ed Description: 228 p. ; 21 cm ISBN/ISSN: 9780738213163 (alk. paper), 0738213160 (alk. paper), Language: English
First comes love, then comes "a little bit married" : why the long-term relationship has become the new romantic rite of passage -- Dating Peter Pan : you're ready to register at Pottery Barn and he's playing Grand Theft Auto -- Career compromises and Christmas trees : should you be acting married when you aren't? -- Playing house : the cohabitation commandments -- Are we there yet? : the female proposal -- I do. or do I? : handling doubts -- Walking out the door : how to go from a little bit married to very broken up -- Walking down the aisle -- Lessons from matrimony -- Epilogue
submitted by mhpaulin on September 23, 2013, 12:13 pm
In this book, Hannah Seligson exposes the latest trend in relationships: acting as a married couple without having signed the contract beforehand. This book does not intend to convince you about getting married or not. Instead, it presents useful information on this latest trend in terms of financial and professional career concerns, how and when to discuss life-goals that are incompatible, a thousand enlightening aspects of cohabitation, and finally, it points some of the most important aspects to consider when you need to take the decision about walking down the aisle (or not).
She doesn’t engage in any religious or moral preaching. She points out questions that have no right or wrong answer, but that you should ask yourself before taking your relationship to the next level. She even takes the soul-mate concept down to Earth so you can objectively evaluate if your current partner is indeed the right person with whom to share your life.
She closes up the book with smart and useful guidelines for taking the next step, being it breaking up or getting the proposal. She provides facts about the current lifestyle of singles and married people so you know what to expect next. The female proposal chapter will not give you a step-by-step plan, but it will give you tips on how to put the issue on the table. The breaking-up chapter will give you the unwritten rules for breaking up this kind of relationship, such as relationship with the partner’s family and steps to take if you canceled a wedding.
If you have ever wondered why couples are taking this step, if they are a majority or a minority in today’s American society, how and why the mentality regarding marriage has changed from our grandparents to this day, why men procrastinate on popping up the question, if you should move in together or not or if your partner is the right person to marry; this is a book that you will certainly enjoy!